Archive for the Love Category

Settle a debate

Posted in letting go, Love, relationships, self discovery on August 9, 2017 by La Femme

My friend and I have been having a conversation and I need you, my loyal readers, to help us settle it.

The query is:

“When you are in love with someone, especially if they do not reciprocate, when do you know it is time to let go?”

 

I am of the “love them beyond the point of reason” camp

My friend says “if they don’t appreciate what they have, let it go.”

What say you? (also, I wish I knew how to put a poll on here since no one seems to know how to comment. LOL)

precious resource

Posted in Dating, Love, self discovery on August 8, 2017 by La Femme

The problem with being a person who gives it all when they love is that if  you don’t have someone that gives their all back, you can very quickly end up very empty.

It takes a long time to find enough of yourself to start filling the void, and it is taking me even longer to realize that I am a precious resource.

 

 

 

34 is sneaking up, I’ve learned Love is a lie

Posted in Children, Dating, Divorce, infidelity, Lies, Love, Marriage, rationality, relationships, self-esteem, truth on June 16, 2017 by La Femme

NOTE: To all my still married friends, the is not an indictment of your relationship. It is simply saying that I don’t believe it is lasting because it was “pre-ordained,” but because you work you asses off for it

“Because all healing has to start with you.”

I am tired of buying the lie that Disney sold me as a child so that I would demand all the princess merchandise. There is no Prince Charming. There is no “One Person” that is meant for me.

There is no such thing as Happily Ever After

All you can do is love those you love with all of yourself, but don’t ever expect them to love you the same way, because that is not how it works

The older I get (sooner rather than later 😦 ) the more I realize that marriage isn’t about love. It’s not about romance. It’s about finding someone to navigate with and the propagate the species with. That’s why it was invented. That’s it.

My ex told me the other day that it’s my fault that we’re divorced. And while there were things that he did that I felt forced my hand, he is correct. I could have, maybe even should have, decided to stick it out. For the girls and for stability. Because the farther out from it I am, the more I realize that he was right… I will never find anyone else willing to put up with me that I’m willing to put up with.

No one is perfect.

There will always be flaws

There will always be fear.

They will:

  • not care
  • have anger issues
  • lie
  • cheat
  • be unhealthy for you

 

That’s life. That is reality.

Love is a chemical reaction in the brain, the most that we can hope for is that just like any drug, with time the effects will wear off.

The Unstoppable Force

Posted in Dating, decisions, Love, relationships, truth on May 23, 2017 by La Femme

are you the now or never kind”   – Eve 6 “Here’s to the Night” 

 

Earlier today I was thinking how it would be nice if I was a chemist so I could invent a pill to stop a chemical reaction… much like an epi pen. Except instead of stopping an allergic reaction, it would stop the chemical reaction that begins “love.” I mean think about all the human pain and suffering that that would prevent… If, at the point when you feel yourself starting to fall for someone who will never be able to love you, you could simply inject yourself and stop it.

 

Of course the other side of me steps in at this point and is like, “really?!”

 

And it occurred to me

I want someone that when they take my hand an tell me to jump, I don’t hesitate

I want someone that when they kiss me I hear all of the old 90’s songs

If it doesn’t exist, then it doesn’t. If it doesn’t exist for me, then so be it.

But if it does…. if I ever find it…. god help the world

If I ever find that person, my love will be the unstoppable force.